Most people are the sit and wait type. When it is meant to be it will happen. Why? Why wait when you can do something about it NOW and get what you want without waiting on others to give it to you. It’s the old TV remote dilemma, hunting around forever for the remote because your favorite show is on and you need to change the channel, well, if you would just walk over to the tv and change it manually, you know like we use to have to do, you would be watching your favorite show while you were looking for the remote.
It is the same when it comes to a new relationship, everything is ‘perfect’ in the beginning, he is trying to win you over, you both jump through hoops to make the other happy. Some men will tell their now wives, when asked “why don’t you bring me flowers anymore or candy or a card, just because”? and the man will usually answer “well, I don’t have to try anymore, I already got you”.
Really?? Isn’t the most important part of any relationship to keep it strong, to do for each other ALWAYS not just until…What if you lived your whole life with that mentality? Waiting for someone else to make you happy, to give you what you want, to give you that promotion, a better job, more money…
Try to understand this. If you have to wait for somebody else to give you what you need, you can wait forever and there’s a decent risk you will never get it.
If you give what you need to yourself and to the other, then you have it both ways: once because you gave it to yourself, and once because you will get back from the other what you gave him. You can have your pie and eat it!
Why does it work this way? Because by giving something, you are tuning yourself to the frequency of that which you give. Let’s say, for example, you need attention. Instead of examining the behavior, facial and verbal expressions of your partner, trying to detect whether he gives you enough attention, you can give attention to him! Ask him how he is feeling right now, how his day went, what he learned today, and if he met any interesting people. Show your genuine interest, and I bet he will be interested in you too. You give attention, and you will get attention in return!
You want love? Give love! You want advice? Give advice! You need an energy boost? Boost up someone else’s energy level and in doing so you will feel your own energy rising! You want people to listen to you? Then first listen carefully to someone else who needs to be heard. You want more friends? Then befriend others! You want more respect from your children? Respect them!
So, in order to get what you want, learn to give it first.
Instead of waiting for your significant other to give you love, why don’t you give love to him or her?
Instead of waiting for your children to respect you, why don’t you start by respecting them? Be an example.
Instead of dreaming of a wonderful job that satisfies your needs, try to be wonderful at your current job first!
Instead of wanting your friends to invest time and energy in your relationship, why don’t you give some extra time and energy to them?
Instead of waiting for peace and calm to come into your life, why don’t you create the silence and inner balance needed to feel the peace you long for?
It’s all a matter of energy vibrating. By giving what you want to others, you are tuning in to the vibrational energy of what it is you want. If you want love and you give it to others, you are in the energy of love already. Giving love makes you feel that love and thus you then attract more love into your life. Giving attention makes you feel the attention. Giving respect puts you in the energy vibration of respect and you will attract more respect towards yourself.
This works for anything you desire. You will not only get what you want by giving it, but you will also be much less dependent on others. You will feel the power of being in charge of your own life!